As I mention in Life
Skills, Gottman takes the opposite view to the "we must communicate
everything out" school of thought. Having always been a member of that
school myself, I found it odd to look at another way of doing things,
but I had to take a good look because of his meticulous research and his
high ability to predict the long-term success or failure of marriages.
This is laid out like a workbook, with quizzes and lists to illustrate
his principles. There are many good talking points for a couple to use
to strengthen their relationship. While I can't agree with everything
here, (at one point he implies that it is a better strategy for a wife
to go out any buy something each time she and her husband have a
significant disagreement, rather thanů hmm, yes, communicating things
out), Gottman is onto something important here. He offers concrete,
practical thing couples can do to improve the quality of their
relationship, and hence, their lives.